On Relationships

I think you can change the nature of a relationship. I really think you can. But only if you really want to. And to find out if you really want to, you have to first determine whether or not you really want that other person in the relationship. You have to determine, if they are really worth it.

I think all relationships are hard - too hard if you want to go that far. That's why people break up every day: because its too hard. But I think when you break up with someone because "its too hard" it really boils down to the fact that you don't want want that person enough to try to make this "too hard relationship" work.

Remember in the movie "The Notebook" ?? :::

Noah: Would you just stay with me?
Allie: Stay with you? What for? Look at us, we are already fighting.
Noah: Well that's what we do. We fight. You tell me when I'm being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you are being a pain in the ass. Which you are 99% of the time. I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings. You have like a two second rebound rate and your back do doing the next pain in the ass thing.
Allie: So what.
Noah: So it's not going to be easy. It's going to be really hard. And we're going to have to work at this every day. But I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, every day.

Once you figure out if you want to do (or not do) that with someone, I think you'll know what to do. Until then, we just have to be troubled with trying to figure out this question. If you figure out that you do not want that person, a breakup will happen. If you figure out that you do want that person, you will try to make it work and you'll go do something about it!

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