"What does it mean to really love yourself? Above all else, loving yourself means that you feel complete when you're on your own. People don't feel like they have to be responsible for your life, because you are responsible for yourself. There's not a needy factor that puts too much pressure on another person. So is this what men want? Who cares? It's time to figure out what you want. Loving yourself and feeling complete isn't about preparing yourself to catch a man (or a woman ^_^). Your emotional growth and well-being should start with you, not someone else, and it should be FOR you, not someone else."
It's harder than you think: To really love yourself. I definitely do not fit the description above for someone who loves themselves. Most people don't seem to take some time out of their day to figure this out. I think before you can really love yourself, you have to figure out who you are. How can you love someone without knowing them, right? I think its important to take some time out - whether its 10 minutes a day or once a week, take a time out from your life and just relax. Think about things calmly. At least this is what I am doing lately and I feel like its really helping me.Its really helping me gain perspective.
Things that I have been finding out about myself: I find that I can be more rational and less erratic. Whenever something emotional happens these days, I try (
try being the operative word) to take a step back, breathe, and think about what I want ultimately. It's true - I still have the crazy need to be impulsive, erratic, and I completely totally hate the idea of delayed gratification. If I'm pissed, I just want to be pissed off and do pissy things that heightens my emotions and makes me feel firery good. But I think that's what gets me in trouble the most. At least it really screws me with me emotionally. If something is bothering me, I have this crazy need to fix it immediately - usually this means fixing it for that moment but making things worse in the end. I need that instant relief and I go crazy if I don't get it. Therefore, when something is bothering me, I have to remember that I do know what I want and then tailor my actions and words to that goal. I don't want to to do irrational things that make me emotionally unstable. I've had enough of that. I have to learn how to control myself more and let the little things go.
To my friends who I've talked their ears off for the past few months - thank you. I never realized I was such a talker, but talking to people who care about me helps me control myself and think rationally. I cannot thank you enough for putting up with all my nonsense. I cannot wait to see some of you on my birthday! :)
And to you - love yourself and be happy
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